Every couple gets into being stuck in a rut in their relationships, where the initial spark and excitement you once had seem to have taken wings.
Most times it takes an unpleasant situation to jolt couples back to reality and make them seek a solution.
It may be the busy schedules, raising kids, commitments to meet, body changes, racing minds, disappointments, or even unmet expectations; in the midst of all these, you can still have the relationship you’ve always dreamt about.
To add some spice to your sex life tonight, focus on communication, sensory experiences, and breaking your usual routine
Communication and Planning
- Share fantasies: Talk openly with your partner about your desires and fantasies to create a safe space for exploration.
- Talk dirty: Start with subtle phrases and build up to more explicit communication, paying attention to your partner’s comfort level.
- Set boundaries and safewords: If you plan to explore more intense activities (like light bondage or rough play), establish clear boundaries and a “safeword” to ensure mutual comfort and safety.
- Flirt all day: Build anticipation by sending naughty texts, playful touches, or suggestive comments throughout the day.
Sensory Experiences and Props
- Incorporate props: Consider using a blindfold to heighten the sense of touch, or introduce a personal massager to explore different types of stimulation. Ensure any props used are clean and safe for their intended purpose.
- Try temperature play: Explore how different temperatures feel on the skin. This could involve warm towels or the coolness of a satin sheet. Avoid using extreme temperatures or anything that could cause discomfort or injury.
- Play with different textures: Introduce items with interesting textures, such as a silk scarf or a feather, to gently touch and explore different areas of the body. Pay attention to what feels good to both partners.
- Set the mood: Create an intimate atmosphere by adjusting the lighting, playing soft music, or using scents like candles or essential oils. Make sure any candles are used safely and are not left unattended.
Breaking Routine
- Change the location: Consider moving your intimate time to a different room in your home, like the living room or a bathroom, for a change of scenery. Ensure the location is private and comfortable for both of you.
- Try a new position: Explore different positions to find what is enjoyable for both partners and offers new sensations. There are many resources available online and in books that illustrate various positions.
- Roleplay: Engage in consensual roleplay that both partners find exciting and comfortable. This can involve adopting different personas or scenarios that you have discussed and agreed upon beforehand.
- Take it slow: Sometimes focusing on extended foreplay, like kissing, touching, and oral stimulation, can build anticipation and intensify the experience. Explore what feels good without the pressure to immediately proceed to intercourse.
- Give a sensual massage: Start with a relaxing, full-body massage using a safe massage oil or lotion, allowing the touch to become more intimate as both partners feel comfortable.
The key to a spicier bedroom is ensuring every activity is based on mutual consent and open, honest communication with your partner.