‘Focus on men who fit your definition of masculinity’ – Enioluwa cautions against criticising effeminate men
Media personality and content creator Eni Adeoluwa, popularly known as Enioluwa, has condemned social media users who record and mock men perceived as effeminate to attract online attention.
He expressed his displeasure in a post on X while reacting to conversations surrounding videos from a recent fashion show.
Enioluwa urged men whose fashion choices or mannerisms draw public attention to exercise caution when granting interviews, warning that some content creators are more interested in generating clicks and engagement than producing responsible content.
He said some interviewers edit footage in ways that expose their subjects to public ridicule without considering the possible consequences for their safety.
The media personality also faulted suggestions that men who dress or express themselves outside conventional masculine expectations represent a loss of Nigerian identity.
He argued that the event was a fashion show, where participants were expected to showcase different styles, but videos featuring men in conventional shirts and trousers attracted less attention than those that generated controversy.
Adeoluwa wrote, “It’s interesting how people attend fashion shows, pick out videos of men dressed a certain way, put them together, and suddenly the conversation becomes, “We are losing our men.”
“Meanwhile, that same fashion show has plenty of men wearing regular shirts and trousers, but those videos rarely get the same attention.
“It is a FASHION SHOW. A FASHION SHOW! Nobody is losing anything”.
Enioluwa added that people seeking men who fit their definition of masculinity could find them at stadiums or gyms rather than targeting others for their appearance.
“If you want to see men who fit your definition of “masculinity,” go to a stadium on a Saturday, visit the gym near your house, and have a field day”.
He further accused some social media users of recording men working in hair salons, tailoring, fashion design and other creative industries, then sharing the footage as clickbait.
According to him, the presence of effeminate men in these professions should not be treated as unusual, as they are simply working and earning a living.
He also warned that online ridicule and negative narratives could expose the men targeted to harassment and threats to their safety.
He wrote, “You’ll record men who work in hair salons, men who are tailors, fashion designers, and others in the creative space, and post their videos online as clickbait, knowing full well that people will try to ridicule them.
“You’ve been going to hair salons all your life. You know that many of the men who work there are effeminate. You know the same is true of some men in fashion and other creative industries. You know this! So why are you suddenly acting surprised?
“There are millions of men who fit your definition of masculinity. Focus on them if you wish but stop making a spectacle of those who don’t.
“Stop deliberately singling people out, turning them into content and exposing them to public ridicule simply because they don’t fit your idea of what a man should be.
“These people are simply working, earning a living and minding their own business. Let them be! Don’t make videos of them.”
The content creator criticised social media users who assume the role of morality police, urging them to examine their own conduct instead of making others the subjects of public ridicule.
“Before you become the judge of everyone else’s life, perhaps remove the log from your own eye first.”
He ended his remarks by appealing to social media users to respect people’s differences, saying: “Leave people alone!”
Enioluwa, also known as “Lipgloss Boy”, has built a public profile around male beauty, fashion, and lifestyle, and has previously spoken about masculinity and gender expectations.
