I never thought I’ll still be single at 35 – Nollywood actress

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Popular actress and producer, Abimbola Craig known for her role in ‘Skinny Girl in Transit’ has revealed that she never thought she would be unmarried at 35.

The outspoken role interpreter who would be 35 in November recounting her story via a video shared on her YouTube channel, said she wasn’t intentional about dating: “Growing up, even till now, I am not the kind of girl that will sit down and tell you I always knew I was going to be married by this time.I always knew I was going to be ‘this’ by this time.I just never set those kind of long-term goals. I am the kind of person that sets short term realistic goals. I just never thought by the time I would be 35, I would be single. It’s weird but it’s true. People like me, we are funny, because I never actively took time out to date. I didn’t realize there was something like being inactive when it comes to dating, until when I spent a lot of time with myself during the pandemic. For the longest time, people would always approach me and I will tell them I am not in a relationship. They would ask me ‘Why are you single’? As I have spent much time with myself especially in the last one year, I realized that as much as I was intentional with everything else, when it came to dating, I wasn’t”.

 

Craig added that because she wasn’t intentional about dating, she couldn’t attract anyone though guys were having conversations with her.

.”I realized that subconsciously, I wasn’t because I wasn’t ready and by the time I got ready and realized I was ready, I was literally 34.I sit down and I realized that ‘Bimbo this is why this never happened’.As much as I might not like the concept of you are what you attract, it did work in favour of me.What I mean by that is that, I wasn’t looking and there was no way people were going to come to me.  It wasn’t that people weren’t having conversations with me or hitting on me, I just would constantly always just cock-block myself and I couldn’t understand why. Although in hindsight, people that I cock-blocked myself from, I never saw myself dating them. Now realizing that I spent so much time being intentional about a lot of things but not with my dating life, it’s a hard pill to swallow, but not a sad pill. I have gotten there and so now I am aware.And so now I am working more on being more intentional about dating. I am now intentional about it because I know I am ready, because I need that balance and I want that balance. It’s a different thing if that’s not you and you don’t want it, but I do. But this journey to 35, I definitely never thought I would be unmarried at 35.But that’s fine because good things are not rushed”.