Nollywood actor Daniel Etim-Effiong has opened up about a time in his life when he dated multiple women simultaneously.
Speaking in a recent interview on WithChude, the actor described those phases as relatively short, explaining that he was in a period of ‘exploration’ and personal growth.
He went on to reflect that during that time, he realized that things which may seem thrilling or gratifying on the surface often fail to bring genuine fulfillment
“Maybe there was a time in my life I was a womaniser. Definitions would differ, but in that definition, maybe there was a period in my life that I was, I wouldn’t say for long periods of my life. Maybe for some certain periods that I explored,” he said.
“So, perhaps, yes, they were periods of learning for me. If I learned, then they were good periods. I learned that certain things don’t necessarily bring you the fulfilment that you think they would. On paper, it feels like that is the life, but in experientially, maybe not.”
Daniel also said that he usually warns young people against womanising, especially if they intend to settle down.
He added that marriage does not automatically change someone and if they are not used to commitment, they will carry those issues into married life.
“I tell young people a lot that it is cool to be a player but if you develop that habit or lifestyle, you won’t automatically change overnight. So, don’t develop something you don’t want to continue for the rest of your life,” he added.
“If you are not able to commit to one person, if you jump from one relationship to another, that won’t automatically change when you marry.
“When you marry that muscle hasn’t been developed so you encounter one challenge and you want to immediately jump or you just be like, ‘I’m talking to you; you are not listening to me, let me find somebody that would listen to me.
“If you are the kind of person that, before you got married it was easy for you to just walk away, keep different relationships, keep ladies on the string, that won’t change when you get married.”
