Nollywood acress Bukky Wright has talked candidly about the challenges that actresses face in their relationships, especially with Nigerian men.
Wright stated in an interview with Ebuka Obi-Uchendu on Channels TV that the nature of their work makes it difficult for many women to find compatible mates.
She clarified that some men who pursue actresses frequently do so not out of true love but rather for other reasons, like gaining influence or notoriety.
When the “right” men do show up, she added, they frequently lack the emotional maturity necessary to manage a relationship with a strong, independent woman.
According to Wright, Nigerian men are generally unprepared to embrace the independence and self-sufficiency of a self-made woman.
She said: “To be very honest, it affects homes, it affects your marriage but at the same time do you get the right men to come to you? Most of the time it’s a no, because the men who feel they’re right for you, I had someone ask, where do I start from, I’ll be like seriously? Start from wherever, start from the beginning, you’re a man, and I’m a woman. But unfortunately, you get to find out that the men that have the guts to talk to you as an actress are probably, I don’t want to say, clout chasers.
“But you won’t blame the women in the Industry because these are the men that come up to them, and for somebody that has that kind of intention, what do you expect out of that marriage? And at times when the right men come, a lot of them don’t have what it takes to be with a self-made woman or a popular actress, sometimes they get jealous on what they’re not supposed to get jealous on forgetting that you met this woman doing this job, you saw her on the screen as an actress, you saw her as a self-made woman before you approached her, so what is it you’re jealous of, is it the fame or what?
“Because I’ve seen a lot of things, I’m going to say this has happened to me, I’ll just say that Nigerian men are not ready for a self-made woman. I’m sorry if this comes as an insult, but are you ready for a self-made woman? Are you ready for an independent woman? because if you want an independent woman or if you want a strong woman, trust me there are some things that you can’t get”.
She concluded that men who desire a submissive partner should consider seeking someone who is not ambitious or driven, as a strong-willed woman will inevitably rebel against attempts to suppress her aspirations.
“But if you want a woman that will always succumb to you, I’ll say go to your village, and get somebody that is not aspiring to be anything in life because if a woman is aspiring to be something and you marry her, and you’re now trying to pull her down, she’ll rebel”, she added.
