“Damsel, good Samaritan,” How the Adegbites met, stole each other’s heart at a Lagos photo studio

Somethings just happen even with little or no underlaying efforts. While some well-to-do guys and ladies sometime walk the entire universe in search of that special one, others simply find themselves enclosed in same place unplanned. And then a single conversation can fuel a lifetime of togetherness!

We’ve seen people meet their spouses in different places, with some appearing really weird. This goes to establish the fact that love can take it’s roots just anywhere as long as the people involved are willing to give it a chance.

This week, my spotlighted couple met at a photo studio. One had already been attended to but forgot her belonging which was already found by a ‘good Samaritan’ As soon as the ‘damsel’ made her way back into the studio, the good Samaritan handed the found item back to her but not without striking a conversation and subsequently exchanging contacts.

It’s been nine years of living each other afresh everyday and these lovebirds are not backing down. One can still feel the passion and flame of love raw and solid.

Please come with me on a journey into the world of Mr and Mrs Adegbite!

 

1. Can you take us back to how your love story started?

Mr Adegbite: Our story began at a passport photograph studio in Lagos. I had gone there to take pictures for a job application. While waiting for my turn, this damsel (my wife) appeared.

Mrs Adegbite: I had actually gotten my pictures but came back looking for my forgotten purse. Only for a good samaritan (my husband) to hand it over to me…I apparently left it on the chair and he saw it when he was about sitting.

Before leaving, we ended up discussing and then exchanged contacts.

 

2. What was the moment you knew “this is the one”?

Mr Adegbite: I knew when I saw how committed she was to her goals. She wasn’t waiting for life to happen to her. She had plans, worked hard and stayed focused. I admired that deeply.

Mrs Adegbite: Mine was during a period when things were not going well for him. Instead of blaming people or making excuses, he kept pushing forward. His determination impressed me.

 

3. How many years have you been together?

Mr Adegbite: We have known each other for 12 years.

Mrs Adegbite: And we have been married for 9 wonderful years.

 

4. What has been your secret to keeping the spark alive all these years, especially after the arrival of kids?

Mr Adegbite: We never stopped being curious about each other. Even after all these years, I still ask about her thoughts, ideas and dreams.

Mrs Adegbite: Many couples talk only about bills and children. We intentionally make time to talk about ourselves too.

 

5. How do you both make each other feel special, even in small ways? What fun habits have stayed with you throughout your marriage?

Mr Adegbite: Every Sunday evening, we take a short walk around our estate. No children, no distractions, just the two of us talking.

Mrs Adegbite: We have a funny habit of giving each other nicknames that change almost every year. Sometimes our children don’t even know who we’re talking about.

 

6. How do you handle disagreements or tough moments now, compared to your early years?

Mr Adegbite: In our early years, we listened to reply.

Mrs Adegbite: Now we listen to understand. That simple change has solved many problems.

 

7. What’s one thing your partner still does that melts your heart?

Mr Adegbite: Whenever I have an important meeting or project, she sends me encouraging messages like it’s my first day at work.

Mrs Adegbite: He still waits for me to start eating before touching his food. It’s a small thing, but after all these years, he still does it.

 

8. What was one of the biggest challenges you faced together, and how did you overcome it?

Mr Adegbite: A few years into marriage, we had to live apart temporarily because of work commitments.

Mrs Adegbite: It wasn’t easy, but we stayed connected, communicated constantly and remained committed to our goals. Looking back, it made our bond stronger.

 

9. What advice would you give to younger couples hoping for a lasting marriage?

Mr Adegbite: Choose someone whose values match yours. Physical attraction is important, but shared values carry a marriage much further.

Mrs Adegbite: Don’t keep score. Marriage is not a competition about who has done more.

 

10. If you could sum up your marriage in one word or sentence, what would it be?

Mr Adegbite: Steady.

Mrs Adegbite: A friendship that became our favourite place to be.