A Nigerian woman identified as Buithat Hudu Muhammad Lawal thrown her weight behind her husband marrying a second wife, leading the search for the co-wife on social media.
According to her, she has always admired polygamy and only required that her husband involved her in the process of seeking another wife.
The woman, a Biochemist by profession, who disclosed this in a Facebook post on Wednesday, April 9, 2025, said she told her husband she would support him in taking a second wife if he fully involves her in the process.
According to Buithat, she doesn’t want a jealous or manipulative co-wife but someone kind, wise, filled with love and of good character.
“Hey loves, I’m smiling as I write this. Yesterday, I made a post about wanting a co-wife — someone to join me in this journey of life with my husband. I noticed a lot of people thought I wasn’t serious, maybe even joked about it. But deep down, I meant every word,” she wrote.
”I’ve always admired polygamy. It’s never been an issue for me. What I do take issue with is how many of our men go about it, lacking fairness and wisdom.
“Growth changes a person. As I’ve grown, so have my thoughts. I’ve always told my husband, if he wants to take another wife, I support it but he must involve me fully in the process.
“No, I’m not looking for a jealous or manipulative co-wife. I want someone kind, wise, filled with love, and grounded in good character.
“I want the freedom to travel for work knowing my children are safe and cared for. I want to be able to love and care for another child of my husband’s not born by me with sincerity, and knowing their mother trusts me completely. I have a deep vision of what polygamy can be, but the real questions are: Can my husband be truly just? And can the new wife be spiritually grounded?
Life really isn’t meant to be this hard.
