A Customary Court in Akure, Ondo state, has dissolved a 23-year-old marriage between Prophet Obayan, the founder of a Lagos-based church, and his wife, Prophetess Chibuzor Lilian Obayan, and resolved the paternity of their four children.
The children’s names had been altered by the estranged wife, prophetess Chibuzor Lilian Obayan, to that of her new boyfriend, a former member of the husband’s church.
Prophet Obayan, the founder of Divine Prophetic Solutions Prayers Ministry, which is located off Arowojobe Street in Ladipo, Lagos, had taken his estranged wife to court in Akure to contest the kidnapping of his four children by a member of his church, and to seek the return of the children’s paternity.
Obayan had filed a divorce suit against his wife on the grounds that she changed his children’s surname to her lover’s name and the dissolution of his 23-year-old marriage.
The petitioner told the court that he is a Yoruba man. At the same time, his wife is Ibo from Abia State alleged her of disobedience, misunderstanding, lies, manipulation, abuse, hate and rage.
Obayan, prayed the court to grant him the custody of his four children whom his wife had changed their surname to Obi.
During the hearing, the petitioner called three witnesses, including himself, while the respondent and five others testified for the defence.
The respondent’s lawyer, T.B. Odudu, while addressing the court submitted that all the six witnesses she called corroborated their testimonies that there was no marriage between the petitioner and the respondent.
Odudu said that the plaintiff lacked the five elements of customary marriage in Ibo land, which include; a treaty, concept of parental agreement, handing over of bride and payment of bride price, not in the relationship.
On his part, the petitioner’s counsel, Bosun Otitoju, told the court that his witnesses had testified that there was indeed a marriage ceremony between Obayan and his wife.
Otitoju cited the case of Agbeja (1985) 3 NWLR (Pt.11) 19, which held, “In proof of customary marriage, the evidence of the Head of the family is desirable to prove an eyewitness account of the transaction is essential.”
However, in his judgement, Magistrate Segun Stephen Rotiba, dissolved the marriage on the grounds that the parties have lost interest in the union.
Magistrate Rotiba said that with regard to relief two in the petition, the Court had already given a well-considered ruling that the children whose custody was sought have already attained adulthood.
According to him “As regards reliefs three and four, which are ‘inpari material and mutatis mutandis,’ the ruling of the Court dated April 26, 2023, has made a reservation to look into the propriety of the said action in the substantive suit.”
The Court noted that from the evidence before it, the Respondent alluded to the fact under cross-examination that since the Petitioner did not pay her bride price, her new husband who paid same has the right to have them bear his name in accordance with Ibo custom.
It held further, “In the same breathe, I find the Ibo custom exuded by the respondent and her witnesses that the children of the union can bear Mr Abua Obi as their surname, atavistic, barbaric, evil, ungodly, irrational, unsensational, crass, gross, crude, unwary, provocative, ungodly, discriminatory and insensible.
“The custom that tends to punish one person when two consenting adults are involved in the act is nothing but the highest element of insensitivity and servitude.
“I condemn this custom in the strongest terms. While the matter was on, a publication was made on February 2, 2023 in Vanguard newspapers, changing the surname of the first two children of the parties to Abua Obi.
“Aside the fact that complicit to change the surname of the first two children has been established against the Respondent, it also amounts to subjudice as no action is expected to be taken on the subject matter by whoever, when the matter is pending before the Court.
“This is a complete affront to the Court. I say no more. In conclusion, the Court hereby dissolves the union between the parties, having broken down irretrievably.
“The court, hereby declares personal non grata, the custom of the Respondent awarding paternal personality to a man who is not the children’s biological father.
“The court hereby invalidates and renders null and void the publication changing the surname of the 1st and 2nd children from Obayan to Abua Obi.
Rotiba added that ” the court also invalidates any other publication or whatsoever changing the surname of the Children from Obayan to Abua Obi during the pendency of this case.”